Accomplish Your Goals & Start Living Your Dream!
“Accomplish your goals and make your dreams come true!” Yes, I have found the secret! Well, sort of. I have found 89% of the secret. This is starting to sound like one of those really frustrating posts that promise to tell you something, then they keep dancing around the thing, so you read to the end only to find out they never tell you the thing and most often want you to pay them to tell you. This is NOT one of those posts (I hate those)! You want to know the secret to reaching your goals and dreams? Stop thinking about them and GO AFTER THEM! I am a…
I Am Home.
Maybe you are a stay-at-home home who doesn’t bring home a pay check… Maybe you have a spouse who doesn’t appreciate you… Maybe you work to support your family but feel guilt and wonder if financial is the type of support your family needs… I am or have been all of these and I have been hard on myself. Recently I was told that what I do in my house has little to no value. Anyone could cook, clean, do laundry and drive the kids around, and they are right. Anyone can do the mindless, mundane tasks of taking care of a house, it does not require special skills. Some…
Be Kind… Look Up!
Have you noticed when you go out in public that it’s lonely? Now honestly, I am an introvert so there is a part of me that doesn’t mind everyone staying to themselves. But when it gets to the point of indifference and inconsiderate I think there’s a problem. Here’s what I mean. I took my kids to get ice cream. As we were deciding on what flavors to get, the girl at the window gives an elderly man his rootbeer float along with the extra rootbeer in the can. I watched this man take careful baby steps to his car and thought, “how is he going to open the door…
Great Expectations…
Looking back, I was naive. I thought that I was in control of my life and I could make it be whatever I wanted. It took me until I was 30 to realize that there is very little that I can control and no matter how bad you want something you cannot force it to happen. If you were to ask me when I was younger how I thought my life would turn out I would give you two very different, yet clear paths that I KNEW my life would take. HA! It sounds silly now to say that at the time I “knew” how my life would turn out.…
Are You Financially Trapped?
Hi Ladies. As women, especially moms, we are always trying to do what is best for our families, often at the cost of what is best for us. This is true in most aspects of our lives, including financially. One reason women who find themselves in a bad relationship don’t leave or seek help is because they are financially dependent on their significant other. I wanted to share a few thoughts on this topic that may help if you find yourself in this situation. In a healthy relationship, couples work together financially to pay bills, plan retirement and build a life together. When the relationship is unhealthy, one person tends…
Finding Hope
There are days when my situation beats me down and I lose all sight of hope. I cry throughout the night with my heart aching. I don’t want to get out of bed when morning comes because I don’t want to face my truth. I have to remind myself to take deep breaths so I can hold the tears back or so I don’t have a panic attack. I have to go into “auto-pilot” mode to function at all. The hardest part about all of this is that I am aware of what is going on. I am painfully aware of my situation, how I am feeling and the effect…
My Fear of Peanut Butter & Jelly
Peanut butter and Jelly. Seems like a silly thing to be afraid of, right? No, neither I nor my kids have peanut allergies, thankfully. And I make my kids pb&j at least once a week but I don’t dare eat one myself. I know this sounds ridiculous but I can explain. When I was in high school, I was full of insecurities (like all teenagers). I noticed that my best friend was becoming more popular, she was thin and outgoing. I also noticed that the boy I was dating like to flirt with girls who were thinner than me. So my 17-year-old brain decided that if I were thinner I…
Like A Peony
Have you ever seen a peony? They have big, beautiful blooms that I adore! The blooms are so big and heavy that their stem cannot hold them upright. If they are not supported with a stake the flower will lay down and be weighted to the ground. I am like a peony. Let me explain. I love deeply. This is who I am. I have tried to protect myself by keeping people at a distance or pretending I don’t care but nothing works. The truth is that this is who I am. If I care about you, I do so wholeheartedly. I will give you the shirt off my back,…
Creating a Budget
Last month I declared a spending freeze to help me take control of my financial life (you can read about it here: “Enough Is Enough”). I stated that the next step was to create a budget so here I am to revisit the spending freeze and talk about how to create a budget for yourself. Make sure you check out the free online service to help you keep track of your spending at the end of this post! The goal of the spending freeze was to get out of the habit of mindless spending so that I can change my mindset to intentional spending. I stopped making impulse purchases and…
I Failed At Forgiveness
Tonight I failed. Tonight I came face to face with someone who tried to tear my world apart. I don’t even know how to describe what this woman attempted to do and how it has torn me apart, shattered so many relationships in my life and tested me to the core. Over the past year and a half, I have struggled with every emotion from hate to love, betrayal and grief. I have struggled with the concept of forgiveness. I have forgiven a lot of things over the years. Tough things… Things that some people can’t understand how I could forgive. I could forgive because I could understand why they…
